When You’re in the Dumps: The Myth of Having It All Together

This week, a friend was heavy on my heart. You know those moments where someone just keeps coming to mind? I couldn’t shake it, so I sent a quick message.

What she said stopped me in my tracks.

She’s a local entrepreneur. Normally upbeat, creative, thriving. But this week? She was in the dumps.
She told me the words so many of us carry but rarely say out loud:

“I feel like an imposter.”

Whew.

That hit deep—because don’t we all feel that way sometimes? Especially when we’re stepping into something new, leading something bigger than ourselves, or trying to show up when we’re not sure we’re enough?

But here’s what I told her—and maybe it’s what you need to hear, too:

Being an entrepreneur doesn’t mean you have it all together. It just means you keep going, even when you don’t.

The Myth of “Having It All Together”

There’s this silent pressure in the business world—especially for women—to make everything look flawless:

The curated feed. The polished launch. The perfect latte shot next to your laptop.

But let me be real with you:

That is a myth.

Nobody has it all figured out. Not the coach. Not the content creator. Not the mom running a business from her kitchen table.

We all have seasons when the passion fades, the confidence wobbles, and we feel like we’re back at square one.

And when stress hits hard?
Sometimes those old patterns creep back in.
You scroll more. You isolate. You start numbing. You hustle too hard. You wonder if maybe it’s time to quit.

But that doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

It means you’re human.

And what you need in that moment is not more guilt.

It’s more grace.

What I’ve Learned Along the Way:

• Growth isn’t a straight line. It’s a little messy, sometimes chaotic—and full of detours that still count.

• You don’t have to be strong all the time. You just have to be real.

• God doesn’t only meet us in our highlight reel. He shows up right in the dumps—in the discouragement, in the questions, in the middle of it all.

That message I sent to my friend?
It turned into the kind of conversation we both needed.

We prayed.
We talked.

And we reminded each other:

We are not alone.

If you’re in a low season right now, please don’t believe the lie that you’re the only one struggling.

You don’t need a new strategy.
You need support.

You don’t need to “push through.”
You need people.

You don’t need to have it all together.
You need truth.
You need grace.
You need a little bit of real talk.

So here’s your reminder—from one entrepreneur to another:

• You’re not behind.

• You’re not broken.

• You’re not disqualified just because this season is hard.

You are a work in progress. And God’s not done with you yet.